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How Far is Too Far?



Males are stimulated differently than females. A behavior like "French kissing" will lead a guy to become sexually aroused but a girl will simply feel more affection towards him. You should avoid anything that could lead you into this arousal zone – things like drugs, alcohol, French kissing, prolonged kissing, and petting. Knowing how far to go means understanding that men have a higher sex drive and women a higher love drive. It also means knowing that using drugs and alcohol will impact sexual behavior because they deaden the conscience and heighten the passions. Setting boundaries and "no trespassing zones" are essential to staying pure while dating.

How do I say NO? 











Everybody has three types of "language" – verbal, body, and what you wear. When it comes to saying "No" in a dating relationship, your words, your body and your clothes all must be saying it! If you are saying No, but wearing a Yes, then your No becomes a Maybe. The simple fact is that a guy is more visually stimulated than a girl and will be more affected by how she dresses. When you are getting ready for your next date remember this: the more you Show the harder it is to say No. Both of you should speak, act and dress in ways that show respect for each other.



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What do I do if I am being pressured to have sex?

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If you truly love someone, you will respect his or her desire to save sex for marriage and will lovingly choose to embrace these same values. Sadly, too many young people fall victim to sexual pressure because of the fear of being rejected. You deserve to have a dating relationship that honors you for the person you are. You want that relationship to help you to have a happy, healthy and wholesome life. Take heart, there are many young people who desire to save sex for marriage. Be patient! True love will wait for marriage and you are worth waiting for!



















Is safe sex really safe?



The "safe sex" myth is a lie. Webster defines "safe" as "free from harm". Those who are engaging in sexual intercourse and are relying on condoms, pills or any other form of contraception are playing "sexual roulette." It’s like loading a six-shooter with one bullet, spinning the barrel and pulling the trigger when the gun is pointed at your head. You may end up "safe", or you may end up dead. A condom has a failure rate of 14% in preventing pregnancy, is ineffective in protecting against 6 out of the 8 most common sexually transmitted diseases, including HPV (Human Papillomavirus a.k.a. genital warts – the most common STD), and cannot even guarantee protection from the HIV virus that causes AIDS, a routinely fatal disease. The birth control pill offers women absolutely no protection against STD infection and has many associated health risks and side effects. Does this sound "safe" to you?

















Is oral sex really sex?



You better believe it! Many teenagers believe that oral sex is not considered sex because it does not fit into their definition of sexual intercourse. The real purposes of sexual intercourse are to create a new life and to bond with your spouse. Oral sex does neither. Sadly, many teenagers are unaware that risky sexual behavior, such as oral sex, can transmit life-threatening and incurable diseases such as HIV, HPV, genital herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhea.
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How painful is sex the first time?



Some girls feel discomfort when the hymen stretches or tears, which can cause a little bleeding. Sometimes a girl may not be aroused (or she's feeling nervous or worried) so her vagina isn't lubricated enough for the guy's penis to enter comfortably. Lubricated condoms can help. And of course, couples should always use a condom every time they have sex to protect against unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

In general, though, pain during sex does indicate that things aren't going as they should and it's a good topic to talk to your doctor about.



How do you know when you're really ready for sex?





Sex is very intimate. It's not just physical, it's emotional too. It's normal for teens to have strong sexual feelings, but it doesn't always mean you have to act on them.

You can feel physically ready for sex but not be in the right relationship for any number of reasons. Because having sex is so emotionally powerful, it's easy to get hurt. Sex is only part of a relationship. Other important things — like trust, mutual respect, and caring — need to be in place too.

Finally, for all its magic, sex can have a downside, such as an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases (STD).           

Source:  http://www.abortionfacts.com/literature/the-top-10-questions-teenagers-ask-about-sex

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